Simple Resume Tricks to Help You Switch Careers






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There was a time, not too long ago, when it was common to work the same job for your entire career (just think about your grandparents). But today, that’s not the case. According to a recent Forbes study, 49 percent of Millennials would quit their job within the next two years (25 percent of which have already left a job within the past two years). This is partially due to the fact that we’re the most disengaged generation in the United States—71 percent report being either not engaged or actively disengaged at work, and according to a separate 2018 research study, while boomers considered being a good provider as the most important aspect of their job, not surprisingly, millennials have very different priorities.

We value passion and impact above everything else.

While job searching can be stressful, I love the fact that it’s no longer taboo to leave a job because you’re just not passionate about it. You shouldn’t have to spend your life doing something that you don’t enjoy, and in order to find the thing that you do enjoy, you may have to do a complete 180 and switch industries altogether.

The first time I realized I was working in the wrong industry, it didn’t take long for the self-doubt to start creeping in. I asked myself so many questions: How would I land a new job in an industry I had never worked in before? Did I waste all these years at my current job for nothing? Would I have to start all over again? But once I started looking around for jobs in new industries, I quickly realized that, while I didn’t have the exact experience many of them were looking for, I did have the basic set of skills necessary to do the jobs well. So I focused on building my resume around transferable skills—skills that can transfer from one industry to the next because they’re necessary in order to succeed in any job. 

Since learning this trick, I’ve been able to land jobs in a wide variety of industries, from event marketing to real estate technology to public relations and digital branding, all of which have inched me even closer to achieving the career of my dreams. Below, you’ll find the four transferable skills I’ve found to be the most eye-catching as well as how to seamlessly weave them into your resume to prove your value in any industry.

 

Critical thinking

Critical thinking, also known as problem solving, is the ability to identify an issue, weigh the pros and cons of multiple solutions, and make an educated decision on the best path forward. Organizations everywhere value critical thinking, no matter the industry—in fact, job postings requiring the skill have doubled since 2009, as Forbes reported, and usually, it’s the employees who take it upon themselves to solve problems who are also the ones that make the most impact.

When preparing your resume to apply for a job in a new industry, pepper in a few bullet points about how you solved problems in your previous roles. Did you identify a more efficient way to do something? Did you implement a new tool that saved money or increased productivity? Did you notice a hole in an existing process and propose a better way to move forward? Rather than simply listing “problem solving” as a skill, paint a picture of how you thought through a problem critically, why you landed on a particular solution, and what the positive result of that decision turned out to be. This will show your interviewer that you’re always thinking about ways to do things better—a skill every company values.

 

Communication

Having strong communication skills is essential across every job and every industry. You can make this skill apparent from your very first interaction with a potential new employer simply by the way you write that first email as well as when and how often you follow up. I know the feeling of firing off a well-polished application and then never hearing anything in return (I even wrote an article about it; it happens that often).

It can feel daunting having to follow up with a stranger, but I strongly believe that, if done in a polite and time-appropriate manner, this is actually an opportunity to show off your communication skills. Hiring managers are busy, and in my experience, they appreciate a candidate who has the confidence to offer a gentle reminder. This can give them a glimpse into how you would operate as an actual employee as well. If you did work there, you wouldn’t want them to think you were too timid to follow up with a coworker or client if they owed you a response, so don’t be too timid as an applicant, either. 

If you end up landing an interview, make sure you’re truly listening to the questions you’re being asked—this may sound obvious, but sometimes we tend to walk into interviews with a script of what we want to say already rehearsed, then we spend the whole time the interviewer is talking thinking about what we’re going to say next. It’s important to be prepared, but make sure you’re actually answering the questions they ask, not simply spitting out the answers you want them to hear. If a question catches you off guard and you need a moment to think about the best way to answer it, let them know. Intentional communication during the interview process will show them that you can be trusted to handle yourself professionally with clients and key stakeholders and that you listen to understand, rather than just waiting for your turn to talk. 

 

Teamwork

No matter the industry, it’s pretty much a guarantee that you’ll be working with other people in some capacity. For that reason, the ability to work as part of a larger team is an essential skill. At its core, teamwork means that a group of individual people must all work together to achieve a common goal. Within that group of people, there will be employees of different backgrounds, skill sets, interests, and responsibilities—but if you’re a true team player, you’ll be willing to take on essential tasks that may fall outside of your wheelhouse if those tasks will help achieve the common goal.

When trying to switch industries—or land any job for that matter—we tend to show employers our professional highlight reel, but it’s equally as important to show that you’re a team player by including some examples of where you took on a project for the good of the overall team, even if it wasn’t necessarily the most glamorous task. Within any industry, I’ve learned that there are four little words that will immediately set off red flags: “That’s not my job.” By showing an employer that you don’t consider yourself “above” particular tasks, you’ll be positioning yourself as someone who can provide value in any team setting.  

 

Organization

Being organized can essentially be broken down into two parts: You know how to manage your time and you know how to multitask. When putting together your resume, think through how you can best illustrate the multitude of different things you were in charge of at your previous roles.

In addition to your regular responsibilities, were you on a culture committee? Did you volunteer your time for additional projects? Did your work straddle two different departments? If so, how did you stay organized? Are you a fan of time blocking, or do swear by time management tools like Trello, Evernote, or Asana? The beauty of this skill is that there is no right or wrong way to stay organized—what’s important is that you have a system and that it works for you. Every company would gladly welcome a little more order into their business. By showing that you can stay organized amidst the chaos, they’ll see you as a valuable resource, no matter your background.

When it comes down to it, specific skills can always be taught—but transferable skills can generally only come from experience, and hiring managers know that. If you’re trying to jump from one industry to another, a learning curve will be inevitable, so be honest about what you do and don’t know. However, every company, no matter the industry, will be impressed with a candidate who can showcase these four qualities, and the smart ones will place just as much value on that as anything else.

 

 

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The Correct Order to Apply Your Skincare Products

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Regardless of the number of products in your skincare routine, if you’re not a dermatologist or expert, figuring out how to actually make sure all of these products work involves a little bit of research. Daily skincare routines include several steps, and it can be a little confusing as to what goes on top of what and which ingredients shouldn’t be applied together.

We’re demystifying the proper steps and applications of various products and giving a few basic no-nos when it comes to combining certain ingredients, but we urge you to be mindful of the active ingredients in the products you already own. Should your hydrating serum and vitamin C serum be applied together? Well, that depends on their main ingredients. This article will help you know what to look out for.

 

Meet the expert
Dr. Cynthia Bailey M.D.
BOARD-CERTIFIED DERMATOLOGIST, FOUNDER OF DR. BAILEY SKIN CARE
Dr. Cynthia Bailey is a practicing board-certified dermatologist based in California and the founder of Dr. Bailey Skin Care. She focuses on skincare routines, skin issues, and more.

 

The Basics

Why is how you layer your skincare even important? It all comes down to absorption. “Layering your skin products in the right order helps you get the most out of your routine; you want maximal percutaneous absorption of important active ingredients,” said Cynthia Bailey, M.D., board certified dermatologist and founder of Dr. Bailey Skin Care. “Applying a product that blocks others from getting through your skin will be a frustrating waste of time and money.”

When it comes to the proper order of application of products, you typically want to go from thin to thick. “Always apply water-based products before oil-based products and try to layer thinner texture water-based products before thicker/creamier/oily containing products,” Dr. Bailey said. The viscosity of your products determines how they’re absorbed into your skin. If you apply a watery serum after you’ve already layered on a cream or lotion, you are not receiving the full benefits of the thinner product because it’s not able to penetrate the skin with something else so thick underneath. This foundational principle has some exceptions that we’ll cover, namely when it comes to eye creams, eye serums, and retinol.

The proper application of products also differs between night and day applications, as you won’t be using the same products each time. “Ideally you want a twice-a-day AM/PM skincare routine separated by about 12 hours or so,” Dr. Bailey added. While some products are best applied at night (like retinol) or in the morning (antioxidants like vitamin C), your routine will generally look similar, always starting with cleanser. 

According to Dr. Bailey, the proper skincare routine involves: 

  1. Cleanser
  2. Correcting products (like retinol, AHA/BHA, and other products meant to improve current skin issues)
  3. Hydrating products (serums and moisturizer)
  4. Protecting products (sunscreen)

Here, we’re breaking down just how to organize your routine. 

 





Source: Danielle Moss

 

What Order to Apply Your Skincare Products in the Morning

 

Step 1: Oil Cleanser

Note that if you aren’t using a facial oil in your nighttime routine, then oil cleansing in the morning isn’t always necessary. However, if you have dry skin, using an oil cleanser instead of a gel or milky cleanser in the morning might be a better alternative. It will hydrate your skin while getting rid of any products or sweat from the night before.

 

DHC

Deep Cleansing Oil

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Cleansing Oil & Makeup Remover

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Step 2: Micellar Water

Cleanse with either a water-based cleanser or do a micellar water rinse by saturating a cotton pad with pure micellar water and sweeping it all over your face and neck.

 

Garnier

Micellar Cleansing Water

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Bioderma

Makeup Remover

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Step 3: Hydrating Toner and Essences

To keep your skin supple and hydrated, use a hydrating toner or essence while your skin is still damp from the micellar water. The key to a hydrated, plump complexion is layers of moisture, so we’ll start with this step: Apply your toner or essence with your hands and pat it into the skin. 

Pacifica

Hydrating Milk Tonic

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Sunday Riley

Firming Resurfacing Essence

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Step 4: Treatment Serums and Ampoules

The typical treatment serum used in daytime skincare is a vitamin C serum, but no matter what types of serums you use, just make sure that the most potent active ingredient goes on first. To save time, I’d recommend a Vitamin C serum combined with hyaluronic acid so you don’t have to spend time layering in the early morning. But if you do choose to layer serums, always apply the hydrating serum after the treatment serum.

 

Hyper Skin

Brightening Vitamin C Serum

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Glow Recipe

Hyaluronic Acid Serum

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Step 5: Eye Cream or Eye Serums

The skin under your eyes is the thinnest on your face, so your eye-specific products need to go on before any heavier moisturizers.

Biossance

Squalane + Marine Algae Eye Cream

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OLEHENRIKSEN

Banana Bright Eye Crème

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Step 6: Moisturizer

There’s no such thing as skin that’s too moisturized, but if you struggle with heavy moisturizer under makeup, consider a gel consistency or a light lotion.

Neutrogena

Hydro Boost Gel-Cream

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Tatcha

The Dewy Skin Cream

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Step 7: SPF

“Sunscreen typically sits on top of your skin or penetrates just into the superficial layers of dead cells,” Dr. Bailey said. This is why you always finish your routine with sunscreen between 30 and 50 SPF. Look for a milky essence consistency or a serum style sunscreen to avoid white cast or caking makeup.

Black Girl Sunscreen

Sunscreen Lotion SPF 30

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Sunscreen SPF 40

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What Order to Apply Your Skincare Products at Night

For nighttime skincare, you need to consider whether or not you want to incorporate a retinol in your routine. Retinol can be a little daunting, so read our full rundown on it here. Nighttime skincare is the time for more serious treatments like retinol and other photosensitizing AHAs like glycolic and lactic acids because a lot of these active ingredients break down in sunlight.

If you want to use both an AHA and retinol, it’s best to alternate their application. Use retinol one night and your AHA the next, and so on, but be careful and go slow because these ingredients are known to cause irritation when you first start them. A typical nighttime skincare routine will look relatively similar to a daytime routine with a few minor tweaks.

 

Step 1: Oil Cleanser

An oil cleanser is always necessary at night, as you will be removing makeup, SPF, environmental pollutants, and the sebum your skin produced during the day. You can use an oil cleanser or a cleansing balm depending on your preferences. 

Good Molecules

Cleansing Balm

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Biossance

Squalane + Antioxidant Cleansing Oil

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Step 2: Gel or Milky Cleanser

To make sure all of the oily residue from your cleansing oil/balm is removed and that your skin is totally clear of makeup, dirt, and oil, opt for a gel or milky cleanser. Gel is great for combination/oily skin or acne-prone skin, while a milky cleanser will clean skin without stripping away all of the moisture on dry skin types. 

The Ordinary

Squalane Cleanser

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Avène

Cleanance Cleansing Gel

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Step 3: Hydrating Toner or Liquid Exfoliator

You can use the same toner or essence you used in the morning to hydrate your skin and prepare it for any of the harsh acid ingredients or retinoids you might use next. You can also use a liquid exfoliant with AHA or BHA during this step. Make sure to not use any other acids in your evening routine and follow this step with a hydrating moisturizer.

The Ordinary

Glycolic Acid 7% Toning Solution

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2% BHA Liquid Exfoliant

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Step 4: AHA/BHA or Retinol

If you used an exfoliator in the last step, skip this one. This is where retinol and AHAs start to come into play. Using AHAs and BHAs at the same time as retinol can be irritating depending on your skin type, so we recommend alternating nights or using AHA/BHA products in the morning and retinol at night to limit irritation. If you aren’t using retinol, this is where you might opt for a glycolic or lactic acid serum or mask that will exfoliate your skin overnight. If retinol is a little too strong for your skin, try a bakuchiol product instead. Always wait until skin is completely dry before applying retinol—usually wait about 20 minutes and then allow your retinol product to fully absorb before moving on.

Versed

Gentle Retinol Serum

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PCA Skin

Retinol Renewal

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If you’re worried about mixing acids yourself, opt for a product that’s already done the ratio for you. 

Allies of Skin

Retinoid Brightening Sleeping Facial

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Shani Darden Skincare

Retinol Reform

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Step 5: Eye Cream

Opt for a heavier formula for nighttime use that focuses on moisturizing and treating the undereye.

RoC

Retinol Correxion Eye Cream

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Shiseido

Wrinkle Smoothing Eye Cream

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Step 6: Moisturizer

“Look for moisturizing creams with ingredients that support your skin barrier such as squalane, ceramides, lipids (oils), glycerin in a cream base matched to your skin type,” Dr. Bailey explained. “This helps to ‘seal the deal’ over your correcting products and helps protect skin from barrier breakdown (irritant dermatitis) and prevent trans-epidermal water loss.” If you have oily skin, you can opt for an oil-free moisturizer (similar to what you used in the daytime), whereas those with dry skin might need a thicker product before bed.

Farmacy

Ceramide Moisturizer

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CeraVe

Skin Renewing Night Cream

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Step 7: Sleeping Mask

Sleeping masks help create a barrier to seal in all of your products and keep your skin optimally hydrated throughout the night. If you like to use a facial oil at night, this would be the step to add it in as well. 

Summer Fridays

Jet Lag Mask

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Origins

Overnight Hydrating Mask

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Step 8: Spot Treatment

If you have any active breakouts, this is when you would apply a spot treatment or a pimple patch (our editors’ favorite way to get rid of a pesky zit). Do not apply any other skincare over a spot treatment, especially retinol.

Hero Cosmetics

Mighty Patch Original Acne Patches

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Alleyoop

All-In-One Blemish Treatment

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What Skincare Ingredients to Use Together and Which to Avoid

When you begin to combine the skincare you already own with new things you want to purchase, you need to be careful about which active ingredients you are layering together. Always check to see what the main ingredients in your products are to avoid irritation.

 

The Don’ts

 

Retinol + Glycolic Acid = No… or maybe!

If you have sensitive or reactive skin, these two can be problematic when layered together. If you’re going to use any AHA alongside retinol, be sure to start slow to avoid redness and peeling. Opt for a product that combines small percentages of AHA/BHA with retinol already in the formula.

 

Retinol + Vitamin C = NO! 

It’s often debated as to whether or not the pH of L-ascorbic acid destabilizes retinol and therefore renders it ineffective—so far the jury is still out. However, since retinol makes you more sensitive to sunlight and vitamin C is best worn during the day, it’s best to keep these two separate by applying vitamin C in the morning and retinol at night.

 

Retinol + Benzoyl Peroxide = NO!

This is a combination Dr. Bailey warned against because it can cause dryness and irritation, and the two products can deactivate each other if used together, making them less effective. Retinol is used as an acne treatment (particularly in prescription formulas like tretinoin), but it doesn’t play well with the actives in spot treatments, so be careful if you need to use both. Remember, putting retinol on an active breakout will do nothing to cure it, as retinol works on the deeper layers of skin. Retinol is never to be used as a spot treatment! 

 

Benzoyl Peroxide + AHAs = NO!

These are two exfoliators from different ends of the spectrum, so be careful when combining them, as it’s very easy to stress out your skin by over-exfoliating.

 





Source: Mathilde Langevin | Unsplash

 

The Dos

 

Benzoyl Peroxide + Salicylic Acid = Yes, sometimes. 

For acne-prone skin, using these two together once a week can work wonders on active breakouts or congested pores. If you’re not experiencing either, it’s best to leave these two alone.

 

Vitamin C + Peptides = Yes!

These two go together like champagne and OJ. Peptides are kind of like the hype man of skincare: They’re not that special on their own, but they really rev up the effectiveness of other active ingredients. These short-chain amino acids are the building blocks of the protein that creates collagen and elastin, and they really love antioxidants like vitamin C.

 

Vitamin C + SPF = Yes!

You have to have sun protection during the day—that’s a given—but your SPF does nothing to protect you from environmental pollution and heat-activated free radicals. For this, you need an effective antioxidant like vitamin C.

 

Retinol + Hyaluronic Acid = Yes!

You should always replenish moisture after applying retinol, hence why retinol and hyaluronic acid are a dynamic duo in your skincare routine.

 

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The Best Workwear at the Nordstrom Anniversary Sale

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After spending so much time in leggings and sweatshirts, we may have bleak closets when it comes to outfits to wear when we’re back in the office. My wardrobe has taken a turn from cute slacks and button-ups to matching sweatsuits in every color under the rainbow, and the perfect time to snag new pieces for work might just be now.

The Nordstrom Anniversary Sale gives you a chance to stock up on all the essentials—blazers, classic black pants, roomy work totes—at deeply discounted prices. Win. We rounded up our favorite picks from the sale for your work wardrobe, whether you’re looking for a more casual office look or rocking more formal pencil-skirt vibes.

 

Business Casual 





sweater / blazer / backpack / leggings / sneakers

 





Originally $59.50

Slub Top, $34.90

A white T-shirt is a wardrobe must-have, and in this slub knit, it reads less “grabbed this from the floor when everything else was dirty” and more professional. Pair with any pair of pants in your closet and a statement pair of earrings, and you’re set.

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Collared Blouse, $49.90

Originally $72.00
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Cropped Pants, $46.90

Originally $79.00
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Originally $89.00

High-Waist Skinny Jeans, $58.90

A pair of dark wash skinny jeans is a staple in any workwear wardrobe if your office allows denim. These can be dressed up or down and are the ideal day-to-night piece. Tuck them into boots or booties with a sweater or blouse, or wear them with sneakers and a white tee. The options are truly endless.

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Ruffle Blouse, $49.90

Originally $72.00
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Halogen

Faux Leather Joggers, $39.90

Originally $69.00
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Originally $59.00

Ribbed Midi Dress, $38.90

A one-and-done dress is the easiest way to feel put-together at work, and in this midi-length and ribbed material, you’ll look cute and professional while still feeling comfortable. Pair with a pair of booties, sneakers, or sandals while it’s still warm out.

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5 colors available

Cropped V-Neck Cardigan, $34.90

Originally $59.00
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3 colors available

Midi T-Shirt Dress, $51.90

Originally $88.00
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Originally $100.00

Classic Sneakers, $49.90

If you’ve followed The Everygirl for some time, you’ll know our Fashion Editor swears by these sneakers. They’re typically the only white sneakers we ever drop into an outfit graphic, and here’s why: These are the most versatile, classic white sneakers out there. They’re not too trendy with details and platforms, but they still look cool because of the design and all-white look. This is one of the first times we’ve seen them go on sale, so snag these ASAP!

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Free People

Pinstripe Blazer, $99.90

Originally $168.00
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WIT & WISDOM

Ab-Solution Bootcut Jeans, $49.90

Originally $78.00
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Water-Repellent Trench Coat, $119.90

Originally $190.00
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Levi’s

721 High-Waist Skinny Jeans, $64.90

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Originally $150.00

Waterproof Booties, $99.90

For the days you expect to trudge to work in the elements (we’re talking snow, wind, rain, slush—you name it), having a pair of waterproof booties like these will change your life. No more changing your shoes the second you get to the office. With these, you can splash around outside and never worry about your shoes looking messy or being ruined. These are a game-changer in the winter, especially when we go back into the office.

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Ribbed Crewneck Sweater, $18.90

Originally $29.00
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Cozy Cardigan, $58.90

Originally $98.00
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Originally $59.00

Faux Leather Trousers, $39.90

If you want to add a trendier item to your wardrobe at a discount, look no further. Faux leather trousers are still one of fall’s biggest trends, so opt for a cool shade rather than the classic black while they’re on sale (or order both—it’s good for the economy). These are great for day and night, work and play.

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Business Professional 





silk top / coat / bag / trousers / loafers

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V-Neck Satin Blouse, $48.90

Originally $74.00
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Open Edit

Split-Hem Knit Pants, $29.90

Originally $49.00
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Originally $134.95

Heeled Booties, $89.90

Every work closet needs a classic tan bootie you can pair with everything, and these Steve Madden ones are some of our favorites. They’re not too high, but they still give you a little height and make any outfit look a smidge more dressed up. A good pair of booties will never go out of style.

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Good American

Belted Bodycon Dress, $99.90

Originally $149.00
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Wrap Blouse, $34.90

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Originally $69.00

White Button-Up, $45.90

A white button-up will transform your entire closet because it can be re-worn over and over again with different bottoms and accessories and totally change shape. Plus, it’s the perfect piece to take an outfit from day to night—wear buttoned-up with ponte pants during the day, and tuck it into a pair of jeans (or leather leggings) at night.

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Tie-Neck Shirt, $39.90

Originally $79.00
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Ruched-Sleeve Blazer, $65.90

Originally $109.00
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Originally $49.00

Satin Button-Up, $29.90

A business professional office look doesn’t have to be boring. Opt for fun textures and colors in classic silhouettes to give your outfits a bit of edge from your usual.

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1.STATE

Double-Breasted Blazer, $85.90

Originally $129.00
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Open Cardigan, $65.90

Originally $99.00
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Originally $320.00

Belted Coat, $149.90

If you work in an office, you know how absolutely freezing cold it gets, and you’ve probably worn your winter coat at your desk once or twice. But having a coat that you feel comfortable wearing into your very professional office can be a bit of a struggle, but we love this one. It looks and feels so high-end, but the sale price point is quite affordable for a wool-blend piece. You’ll feel like a complete badass walking into the office in this.

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Ribbed Sweater, $38.90

Originally $59.00
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Knit Tube Skirt, $29.90

Originally $49.00
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Originally $59.00

Seam Detail Funnel Neck Sweater, $39.90

Everyone needs a white sweater in their wardrobe, especially for work. Pair it with any trousers in your closet and you have a cute outfit that took no time at all. We love this one because the style and silhouette give a professional and high-end look, while the sale price is totally reasonable.

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Slide Sandals, $39.90

Originally $59.95
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Sweater Dress, $59.90

Originally $98.00
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Originally $149.95

Emlen Chain Loafer, $89.90

A cool loafer with a chain detail is a great way to spice up your workwear without terrifying your boss. This cream loafer would look amazing with any bottoms you pair it with, but we’re partial to leather trousers/leggings with a tunic blouse.

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Mock-Neck Sweater, $49.90

Originally $79.00
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Vince Camuto

Ponte Pants, $58.90

Originally $89.00
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Originally $225.00

Knee-High Boots, $149.90

If you’re looking for trendy shoes for fall, knee-high boots are your go-to. It dresses up dresses, ponte pants, skinny jeans—you name it. These from Sam Edelman come in four colors and have just over a 3-inch heel, so you’ll be able to walk in them easily (maybe after a few wears—we all know the struggle of wearing heels again after a year off!).

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Slouch Boots, $186.90

Originally $278.00
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Classic Flats, $59.90

Originally $99.00
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FabFitFun Review: What We Thought of the Latest Box






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Once you get that first thought of fall in your head, it’s all you can think about. You’re pulling out the fall candles, bulk ordering new sweaters, and listening to your “PSL on a crisp October day” playlist on repeat. Just because it’s sweltering outside and you’re still making pool day plans with your crew doesn’t mean the dreams of cool morning walks and ordering your first hot coffee of the season are leaving your head anytime soon. If you’re as excited as us, you’ll freak out over FabFitFun’s Fall 2021 box. Here’s why I love it so much:

 





 

#1. Each box partners with a different charity so you can give back while getting a box full of new items. This fall, FabFitFun partnered with Art in Action, an organization dedicated to bringing art curriculum to K-8 students worldwide. 

#2. There are so many options for customization with your box so you get exactly what you want. Annual members get the opportunity to customize their entire box, while current and new Seasonal Members can choose four products for their box, and the rest is curated by the FabFitFun team. For $49.99 (or $39.99 with our code!), you can get 6-8 full-size products depending on how you customize—what a massive deal. 

 





 

#3. Being a member gives you the opportunity to try new brands at up to 70 percent off on everything from skincare to kitchen appliances to fitness gear and more. On top of the amazing value of every box (up to $300 worth of full-size products, depending on how you customize, every single time!), FabFitFun offers flash sales every year to members.

#4. Every product selected fits the FabFitFun Standard, meaning products never contain harmful ingredients. The FabFitFun team is constantly reviewing and updating their guidelines to make sure you get a box full of items you feel confident using. 

 





 

Ready to try FabFitFun for yourself? Cozy up in your nearest blanket, light a candle, and grab your wallet because using code EVERYGIRL gets you $10 off your first box! Scroll on for everything you could get in your next box, or if you want to be surprised, order yours here! 

 





 

Everything You Could Get in Your Box:

 





Amika

Bond Repair Shampoo & Conditioner Bundle

Amika’s hair products are some of my favorites on my color-treated, damaged hair. They make my hair feel weightless, smooth, and soft—and this shampoo and conditioner set is no different. Every hair type (but especially those who have relaxed or color-treated their hair) can use a little help in the repair department, and this set actually goes into your hair and rebuilds those bonds from the inside, giving you healthy-looking hair on the outside.

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Arhaus

Waffle Knit Throw

You can never say no to another comfy blanket in the fall. Whether you add it to your bed, couch, or hand it straight over your pet (it’ll be well-loved for sure), having another cozy layer makes your home feel ready for the season.

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BLAQ

Battery Powered Toothbrush

Updating my toothbrush is usually the last thing on my mind, but on top of the hygienic reasons to upgrade, your tooth care regimen might be lacking without an electric toothbrush in your life. This one is battery-powered and in this sleek black packaging that will look chic AF on your bathroom counter.

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Golden Rabbit

Dutch Oven

Who else is ready for all the soups and stews fall has to offer? Make that prep a bit easier with this 2 qt. Dutch oven. Make mac and cheese, casserole, spaghetti, bread, cobbler—you name it, and this carbon steel pan can handle it. It can be used on the stovetop or oven, making it useful for a variety of different dishes.

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Pottery Barn

Mason Diffuser – Solstice

You can’t have a fall home makeover without someething that makes the place smell good. This one from Pottery Barn (swoon!) comes in a bronze, ceramic diffuser and would make the perfect fall addition to a bathroom or bedroom.

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Uncommon James

Cheeseboard

You’ll be asking to host all the movie and wine nights at your place with this Uncommon James cheeseboard. It’s big enough to hold a lot of food but not too big that you’ll go in debt buying 500 types of cheese to fill it.

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Coach

Open Circle Necklace and Tea Rose Stud Set

This jewelry set is so worth it, considering you get both a necklace and earrings you can wear together or separately. Featuring this rose gold tea rose and the Coach logo, it’ll have a solid place in your everyday jewelry storage from now until spring.

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Dose & Co.

Pure Collagen

Add this unflavored powder, which has protein and collagen, to your diet by putting in your coffee, smoothies, tea, or soups to improve your hair, skin, and nails.

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Amanda Uprichard

Belt Bag

We’ve found your new favorite accessory. This belt bag is perfect for on-the-go and cute enough to pop over your favorite skinny jeans and top for a night out.

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Arhaus

Copper Candle – Evergreen

This candle smells like what fall dreams are made of: spicy cinnamon, nutmeg, and clove, all packaged in this gorgeous copper tin.

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APL

All-Purpose Packable Backpack

You’ll wear this leopard print backpack on every errand you run this fall, no doubt. It features an exterior phone pocket and two other outside pockets, making this an easy bag to tote around while shopping, grabbing lunch, going to the office, and anything else on your calendar.

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Pattern

Beauty Curl Gel

This curl gel will make your wash-n-go days a breeze. It defines curls, adding medium hold and lots of bounce and shine thanks to coconut oil and aloe vera.

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FRYE

Bamboo Boot Sock – 2 Pack

Fall shouldn’t exist without cozy socks, and these are nice and long, made to work with every pair of boots in your closet. They’re comfy without being too thick to wear with shoes.

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KORRES

Renewing Body Cleanser – Santorini Grape

This body cleanser, made with aloe and marshmallow root, will keep your skin soft and hydrated, even in the driest of temperatures. Plus, it smells like a vacation in Italy—and who doesn’t want to smell that every time they hop in the shower?

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PURLISSE

Pumpkin + Ginger Mud Mask

While this mask will make your skin look clear and glowy, the best part is the scent. It’s basically pumpkin spice in a skincare product, and I already plan to add it to my self-care routine at least a couple nights every week this fall.

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ELEMIS

Papaya Enzyme Peel

This exfoliating peel contains natural papaya extract and pineapple to slough off dead skin and reveal a brighter, clearer complexion. The vitamin E and marine algae add moisture and softness.

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VOESH

Pedicure in a Box

You won’t even miss your summer pedicures with this set. Made with pumpkin extract and vitamins A, C, and E, the foot soak and scrub removes all that dead skin, while the mud masque and massage cream make your feet impossibly soft for days.

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REN

Clean Skincare Evercalm Day Cream

If you experience an influx of dry patches, itchy skin, and blotchy redness every fall, say I! This calming day cream will not only moisturize your skin but will also help improve all that redness and irritation you get once the weather changes.

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HIP

Lunch Pack

Want a more sustainable lunch situation? This to-go lunch box will replace all the paper and plastic bags you have, making it easier to eat healthy on the go.

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This post is sponsored by FabFitFun, but all of the opinions within are those of The Everygirl editorial board.

 

What My Children Have Taught Me About Courage

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Growing up, I thought that having courage meant doing big, daring and heroic things. I thought it was the kind of things that you watch superheroes do in movies. Yet, the older I get and the longer I am a mother, the more I see that courage is in the small, often everyday choices we make that propel us forward. Courage is in the fabric of each choice to bravely choose your own voice, believe in our worth, stand up for others or to simply try again.

I have found that a common thread weaving through all of parenthood is teaching my kids to choose courage. Because in the movies, the superheroes don’t always look like they’re making a choice. However, in real life, courage is a choice and a constant series of choices made in small, everyday moments. Just like children, we can learn to choose courage daily too.

Courage is in the small, often everyday choices we make that propel us forward.

Here are a few things that my children have taught me about courage:

Choose your own voice.

As a parent, I found myself coaching my children on choosing and listening to their own voices as early as preschool. It’s a skill we often need in unexpected moments.

My daughter came home one day describing in distress how another girl in her class told her, “We don’t like that girl, right? You can’t like her.” Her little 4-year-old mind was working hard to reconcile someone who she identified as a friend not only speaking negatively about another friend, but asking her to choose sides. 

Have you ever been in that subtle moment as a grown-up when in a group of friends, at an office or even with extended family? Choosing your own voice is not always a big moment. It is often a quiet refusal to be incongruent with what you believe.

Choosing your own voice is not always a big moment. It is often a quiet refusal to be incongruent with what you believe.

We work on this in our house a lot. My other daughter, after being told on the playground by another child that there is a group of people God doesn’t love, turned to the girl and said, “Well that’s not true, but you can believe what you want.” She was able to hold onto her own thoughts and beliefs.

Believe in your worth.

“I believe in you, and I’m your biggest fan,” I told my son as he tried out for the soccer team. “No matter what happens we are so proud of you.” 

As adults, we don’t often have as many opportunities to “show our work” to the class, enter a talent show or go for the team. Childhood is full of these exciting and sometimes scary opportunities. Believing in your own worth is an essential part of going for anything and an essential part of picking yourself back up if it doesn’t go how you hoped.

Believing in your own worth is an essential part of going for anything and an essential part of picking yourself back up if it doesn’t go how you hoped. 

I have walked my kids through talent show rehearsals that went well—their little shaky knees walking up the stairs to the small stage in the school gym. Just as important, I hugged my kids as they cried and reminded them that their choice to be brave enough to try and the uniqueness of who they are is much more important than the outcome. 

Knowing our worth is what makes us brave to try. And knowing our worth helps us pick ourselves back up when it doesn’t go how we hoped. What might you try if you knew you were worthy either way?

Stand up for others.

When we drove home from a rally to stand in solidarity with the AAPI community against the growing number of hate crimes this year, my son asked me an insightful question on the way home, “Mom, what can I actually do everyday to help stop this?”

We talked about many options as a white family, including standing up for others in school when there are racist remarks said about or to any other child. I sincerely hoped as a mom this wouldn’t continue to happen, but I knew better. The next week, my son got a chance to practice what he learned as another boy in his class mocked Asian culture. It was a comment made between a few other kids, and in that moment, my son practiced the power of standing up for others. 

Using your voice for others in big ways is essential; however, the potential impact of taking a stand in any small moment that comes your way is a powerful act that can have huge ripple effects. How much more might you use your voice to stand up for others if you believed in the impact of every small moment?

Simply try again.

Sometimes, I feel like literally everything in childhood could be a lesson on trying again. Kids have not mastered anything quite yet. Everything they attempt is new to them at some point, even walking and talking. 

As adults, we lose often sight of this. We fear looking stupid, of being embarrassed or of failing. So we pin ourselves into smaller and smaller corners with little to no new experiences. In the last two years, I have had a child learning to skateboard, another learning to roller blade and still another learning to ride a bike. They fall and fall, over and over again. The only way forward is to simply try again. 

The only way forward is to simply try again. 

It isn’t fancy or complicated. It is just the only thing you can do to move forward. Trying again seems obvious when you fall off a skateboard, but what if we gave ourselves as adults the same permission to just try again when we fail? How many more things might we try?

If courage has felt like a big or far off thing to you, pull that big idea off the metaphorical movie screen and into your everyday life. Courage is a small, daily choice that we all can make.

What have you done today or yesterday that required some measure of courage? Knowing that courage is a choice, what might you choose to do tomorrow?

Image via Melanie Acevedo, Darling Issue No. 11

LeAnn Rimes Leads With Vulnerability in Second Season of ‘Wholly Human’ Podcast

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“Real Women, Real Work” is a Darling series about everyday women who work in various fields including business, entertainment, science and education. We want to get to know the WHY behind their WHAT and get an inside look into different industries.

LeAnn Rimes is known for her success as a Grammy-award winning singer, songwriter and actress, but with the launch of the second season of her mental wellness and wholeness podcast, “Wholly Human,” she is now also a leader in the mental health advocacy space.

Following up on the success of the first season of the iHeartRadio podcast, which reached #2 on iTunes Health & Fitness chart and in the Top 35 overall for podcasts worldwide, LeAnn continues to explore the wellness space in the second season of the acclaimed podcast. Ranging from topics such as anxiety, neuroscience, spirituality and the chatter in the mind, LeAnn leads listeners in honest conversations with experts to provide practical tools for their own wellness journeys.

More than ever, LeAnn is dedicated to using her voice and her celebrity to uplift others by removing the shame surrounding mental health. As she celebrates her 25th anniversary as a recording artist, LeAnn will continue her country-wide tour, and in early fall, will release her next studio album, “God’s Work.”

Darling got to sit down with LeAnn to discuss the second season of her podcast, which debuts today, as well as the journey that led to her upcoming album. 

LeAnn, you are a singer, actress, author and now podcast host. When you were a kid, what did you imagine you’d be when you grew up?

As a child, I wanted to perform. I loved to entertain. I loved to sing. I remember when I was little I either wanted to be a singer, psychiatrist or the first female professional softball player. The singing panned out way more than the other things. I remember when I was young telling my mom that I wanted people to know my name. Everybody would know my name no matter where they lived. So I think I’ve done fairly well. 

I’d also say the past year and a half has allowed me to diversify in a lot of ways. There are gifts through this pandemic. It’s allowed me to play in different areas where I didn’t know if I would have the time before. I have been on tour since I was 13.

At the beginning of 2020, I was talking to a friend, and I had all these ideas for a new record and a podcast. All of the sudden, I had plenty of time to create all these things. The pandemic really has allowed me to diversify and play in areas where I wanted to play but perhaps there was fear. This past year and a half has really been about expanding into other places and beautiful crevices of myself that I have not yet explored. It’s been really exciting.

This past year and a half has really been about expanding into other places and beautiful crevices of myself that I have not yet explored. 

You were catapulted into the spotlight at a really young age. At 13, you were a country music star. How did you deal with the pressure?

In one word, denial. Honestly. We just celebrated 25 years since my first single and album. I look back and I recognize how much denial I had to go through in order to continue to do the work that I was doing. It was always about forward movement and not stopping.

During this down time during COVID, I’ve been off the performance train for 16 months. It’s hard to get back on. It’s given me an opportunity to recognize how unhealthy some of my life was. My nervous system has been stunned since I was a child. In 2020, it was really uncomfortable to have so much down time because my nervous system was wound up. It has been eye opening to reflect after 25 years and to recognize the ways in which I had to suppress and deny in order to survive.

A woman wrapping her arms around herself as the wind blows in her hairAs a public figure, people might assume you don’t have struggles with finding your voice, fear or feelings of depression. What have been the biggest stereotypes or assumptions you’ve had to overcome?

I think there’s a big assumptionthat I am not human actually. We have spent many years as a society, not just with celebrities but with ourselves, shoving down our humanity and presenting a one-dimensional version of ourselves to everyone else. I think we are now finally stripping that back and we are being able to meet one another in our full humanity. 

People look at anyone in the spotlight and think they have everything. They ask: Why would they be upset? We always think that having things equals happiness or that it would get you out of some level of pain. On many levels, that is not true. 

Having so many opinions and projections, as a celebrity you really are projected on by thousands and millions of people. I joked the other day with a friend that the fact that I know who the hell I am outside of what people have projected on me is a miracle. I think we are breaking down a lot of stigmas right now.

I am happy to be on the forefront of that and tear down the stereotypes and shame around mental health. I’m honored to allow people to have their experiences fully and not hide parts of themselves.

I am happy to be on the forefront of that and tear down the stereotypes and shame around mental health.

One of your newest projects is your podcast, “Wholly Human with LeAnn Rimes.” Can you tell me a little bit about the backstory of why you started it?

My whole journey has been about collecting fragmentations of myself and bringing them back into wholeness. It’s a bit of a play on being incredibly human and the souls that we are. I wanted to create a place to connect with people on a human level. 

With me being a public figure, people forget that I am human. There have been so many projections upon my story by the media and people. This is another avenue to be even more open about it and share what I am going through and use my celebrity and my name. It’s been about sharing my journey of expanding into a fuller version of myself and taking people along that ride so that they have the opportunity to do the same. 

We are talking about things I never would have thought I would talk about in a million years. People are connecting with it, and that’s been so beautiful. Hearing the stories of how this has helped listeners deepen their own paths has made me really happy because that was my intention.

On the podcast, what are some common roadblocks you’ve found that hinder our wholeness?

One of our biggest roadblocks is our own voice in our heads. The bully that we think is true and isn’t 99 percent of the time.

It’s so common to see all the different ways in which we have survived, all of our survival mechanisms from an early age. We fed off the world around us. From the time we are born until we are 6 or 7 years old, we basically are carbon copies of our environment. It really is about retraining ourselves and our thoughts. Our programming all plays into who we think we are. It’s about unwinding who we think we are and discovering who we really are.

It really is about retraining ourselves and our thoughts…. It’s about unwinding who we think we are and discovering who we really are.

A woman with a sheer top and her hands playing in her hairThe second season of the podcast is releasing today! What can listeners look forward to?

I am definitely more comfortable with the podcast experience and hosting. We deal with everything from anxiety to the chatter of the mind to the space of the heart and love. Every podcast guest this season is so different from experts on neuroscience to spirituality. We really have dug in further this season and bring people some really great information. 

Everyone’s healing journey is so different. The hope is that the podcast is just a guide. We give them some helpful and tangible things to play with. We are all scientists, and we are also science experiments. So we have to play and see what works for us.

You have a new album releasing this fall called “God’s Work.” What inspired this album?

It is really incredible and inspired from a very spiritual place. I look at it as an extension of the chant record I released in 2020 in a lot of ways but in full musical form. 

I speak truth on this record that scares me. It scared me to write. It scared me to perform, and that’s exciting because I know I’m pushing a boundary for myself and probably a lot of people too. I don’t hold back. I am so proud of this album. 

I know I’m pushing a boundary for myself and probably a lot of people too.

I hope that it helps support people in their awakening. I am creating music to support the awakening and the moment of time that we are in. It’s been a really exciting album to make. 

How would you describe the sound? How is it unique from previous albums?

I like to call it “World-acana” because it has an Americana vibe, but it has a lot of world groups. I love rhythm. There’s something about rhythm that moves me. Drums move me. So we started off playing with rhythms and kind of built it out from there. 

I feel like every album of mine is so different. I have always been one to play. I love music and creating it. There’s a real message that I’m sending with this album. I think that it’s a call to action for a lot of people, a wake up call. It’s been a world expression that I feel called to include.

If you had to pick, what would be your favorite song on the album? What about a close second?

Now that’s like choosing your favorite child. There’s a song called “The Wild” that probably is my favorite song on the record so far. It’s my favorite expression of something new of mine.  It scared the shit out of me when I wrote it. What came out was so true, honest and raw.

There were five incarnations of this song. Even when I went in to cut a scratch vocal, I felt like it wasn’t right. So I sent everyone out of the room, and I ended up finding this really cool hook to the song. I felt like I really let out the wild in me. Then, I knew that the song was complete, but it felt like serious birth pains. I felt like I was birthing a truth for myself and so many women when I recorded the song. I am really proud of that song and how I trusted the process.  

What advice would you give the young woman struggling to find her voice or perhaps who feels stuck?

Trusting the process is so important. Know that where you are is not where you will end up. It’s not the end. It’s just a momentary stop on your journey. 

The more we resist the thing that is showing up for us in the moment, the longer it persists. When we let things in, we become free because we give ourselves and that moment of our lives space to fully express themselves.

The feelings of being stuck are only momentary. Trust your heart and listen to what you feel. I don’t think there’s a wrong answer. We are here to learn. It’s all about the journey.

Know that where you are is not where you will end up. It’s not the end. It’s just a momentary stop on your journey. 

Knowing what you know now, what words of wisdom would you give to your younger self?

Keep a sense of self. I don’t even know if I had a sense of self back then. I think I did have one but then opinions, projections and that programming gets put on us from the outside world. Trust yourself. I don’t think anyone knows better than you.

To keep up to date with LeAnn, follow her on Instagram and listen to the second season of her podcast “Wholly Human.” To find out more, visit her website.

Images via Norman Seeff

Laurie Segall Is Bringing Humanity Back to the Forefront of Journalism

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“Real Women, Real Work” is a Darling series about everyday women who work in various fields including business, entertainment, science and education. We want to get to know the WHY behind their WHAT and get an inside look into different industries.

In an increasingly fractured social and political climate, “60 Minutes+” correspondent, Laurie Segall has never been more passionate about the field of journalism. Segall has often found herself at the forefront of covering what’s next in emerging technology. It’s no surprise that she’s among the founding cohort of correspondents for the new streaming edition of the iconic CBS News magazine “60 Minutes.” In recent years, the media titan has also launched her own entertainment company called Dot Dot Dot Media that is devoted to exploring the intersection of tech and humanity. 

The platform connects the dots between technology and detailed storytelling (both written and audio) while seeking to humanize the media sector. Dot Dot Dot media explores topics like mental health, relationships, ethics and the unintended consequences of technology in our daily lives. 

These common threads have inspired the topics and issues she’s covered as a journalist. Since March, Laurie and her team at “60 Minutes+” have covered extremist groups, virtual spaces where people are living and now buying homes and uncovering how radicalization happens over the Internet. Laurie’s greatest motivation is to approach these complex stories and people with nuance and empathy. 

Darling got to chat with Laurie about her busy career in media and why she is passionate about telling complex and sometimes difficult stories. She shared with us details about her reporting, her upcoming book and her perspective on the media landscape.

What was the moment when you knew you wanted to be a reporter?

I’ve always been drawn to “corner stories”the stories no one paid attention to. I had a column in the school newspaper called “Spotlight” that focused on shining a light on people who readers might not be familiar with. I once interviewed Coach Red, the school’s track coach who was well into his 80s at the time. He lit up when discussing his wife, how they met for the first time and what it was like fighting in World War II. As we neared the end of the interview, he revealed his latest battle: Parkinson’s Disease. 

It was just the two of us, a pen and paper. He began crying. Here was an inspiring human who’d fought in the war, who had an incredible love story and was now staring at his own mortality while taking on a new battle. It was raw and real. It was the most meaningful conversation I’d had with an adult while at the newspaper, and the lightbulb went off. Getting people to open up and share their perspective became something that lit a fire in me. 

Getting people to open up and share their perspective became something that lit a fire in me. 

A woman recording a news segmentWere there any mishaps early on in your career as a reporter? What were some lessons you learned from them?

Failure is a necessary ingredient to success. I’ve experienced quite a bit of it. 

My career at CNN was an untraditional one. I began at the bottom of the food chain and eventually became the senior on-air technology correspondent. I was a total rookie when I had my first on-air experience. I was terrified. I had no background in local news and my first time in front of the camera was on national television. I took a deep breath, sat in the same seat I used to bring guests to sit in as a news assistant and went for it.

When I was done with my segment, I was relieved and proud I hadn’t become an accidental YouTube sensation. I raced upstairs to my boss who smiled and held up eight fingers. “Eight?” I questioned. “Yes,” he replied. “Eight times you said ‘you know’ on air.” I was mortified.

Apparently, my nerves had come across very clearly during the segment. As hard as it was to hear, it was helpful. I realized what a gift that honest feedback is. 

So I kept going. I appeared on air more, and the nerves eased. Eventually, I was able to be myself on camera. It always looked easy from afar, but the truth is it took repetition and putting myself out there to fail in order to get better and feel like my authentic self on television.  

In today’s social media age, some might argue that technology often dehumanizes. How is Dot Dot Dot Media changing this narrative?

Technology can have a dehumanizing impact. It’s part of why I created Dot Dot Dot Media. I was and continue to be determined to use technology to explore the human condition. The shows we are working on are all a bit out there and deal with incredibly human concepts: death, love and mental health. We don’t get to separate ourselves from tech anymore. It’s another layer of our skin. I think the best thing we can do is figure out how to have human conversations around technology’s impact. 

We launched an audio show on Clubhouse on Tuesday evenings this summer, and our latest episode was called “QAnon Therapy.” It was devoted to people who’ve lost touch with family and friends who’ve fallen victim to conspiracies and gone down the rabbit hole on the Internet. It was powerful to use technology as a medium to bring people together. I believe in nuance and empathy when having these conversations. These concepts often get lost in the quick world of media. We emphasize them at Dot Dot Dot, whether it’s in the shows we’re developing or any of the content we’re creating.

I believe in nuance and empathy when having these conversations. These concepts often get lost in the quick world of media.

A woman wearing a mask and wearing military garb outsideCourtesy of CBS News

As a technology reporter, what has been the most surprising connection you’ve found between tech and mental health?

There’s a reason your app notifications are a certain color. They trigger something in the brain. This is intentional by design.

We also have been spending an incredible amount of time on video calls now, much more than we did more than a year ago. Ever wonder why you’re exhausted after a day of video calls?

Researchers at Stanford University have been studying this feeling, and they say that one of the reasons we feel so tired is intense eye contact. When we used to have meetings in person, we’d be spread out around a table. There were never just multiple faces staring directly at you from six inches away. What you’re experiencing when you feel exhausted after these meetings is called “hyper gaze.”

In video calls, you’re almost required to stare at all these faces to signal you’re paying attentionand they appear to be staring backeven if they’re looking at someone else. This is where it gets interesting. Your brain perceives this type of intense eye-contact as a precursor to a fight or an intimate encounter. Your brain sees all these faces and goes on high alert. Essentially, it’s ready to jump into action. However, being on high alert creates stress and that is why you feel like you haven’t moved, but you’re exhausted. It’s really fascinating to take a step back and look at tech’s direct impact on our brains.

What’s next in the world of emerging tech?

The pandemic accelerated quite a bit of tech trends and completely opened the door for new industries. I’m fascinated by the concept of what’s called the metaverse. It’s this idea that one day we will spend part of our time in a combination of the physical world and the virtual world.

 It feels like we are entering a new era of the Internet. We all spent so much time immersed in our computers over the last year and a half and became even more comfortable living a digital existence, which made the concept of “the metaverse” more tangible.

In one of my recent stories for 60 Minutes+, we explored the concept. It’s like the movie Ready Player One. Increasingly, people are spending time in virtual worlds (for example: Fortnite, Roblox, Decentraland). A good example is the rapper Travis Scott who hosted a concert on Fortnite during the pandemic. Twenty-seven million people participated. Facebook is working on its own version of the metaverse as are many other companies. People are now building lives, socializing and spending money in these places, which will only get more interesting as augmented reality becomes more integrated into our everyday lives.

Today, you are also a correspondent for 60 Minutes+. What does a typical day on such a high-profile job look like?

One of my favorite parts of the job is that every day is completely different. One day, I’m at a QAnon convention in Florida talking to people about their beliefs and trying to understand why so many people are falling into conspiracies. A couple weeks later, I’m in a home in rural Michigan, talking to members of an extremist group called the Boogaloo Boys as they load their guns in preparation to attend a protest. A month later, I’m sitting across from a former member of one of the most dangerous white supremacist groups talking about radicalization. The Internet is the common thread in many of these stories and how I approach them.  

I also run my company, Dot Dot Dot Media. On any given day, we are on video calls working on shows we have in development or planning our next audio show. I’m happy to say I just finished my book, “Special Characters: My Adventures with Tech’s Titan’s and Misfits.” I’ve spent my free time lurking at New York City coffee shops as they started reopening during the pandemic and writing about the last decade of tech innovation and the adventures that came along my journey of riding the startup wave to the top at CNN.

If there’s one thing that motivates and drives you as a journalist, what would it be?

Curiosity. I have always been curious about people ever since I started writing profiles in high school. I am a naturally curious person. While I’m a bit of an introvert, I love people and sharing their stories, especially the complicated ones. 

I love people and sharing their stories, especially the complicated ones. 

After the unprecedented events of 2020 and 2021, what would you say to someone who is apathetic toward the media and is disengaged?

I get it. Seriously, it’s exhausting. There’s so much noise. People on all sides are shouting, and it’s hard to really listen. It’s difficult for nuanced conversations to break through. Algorithms are optimized for polarization, and often, the more we scroll or watch, the more anxious we become. 

As someone in the media, I would say I hear you and understand you, but (and of course, there’s a but), authentic storytelling and bursting your own bubble has never been more important. Take the time to find sources of media that challenge and stretch you. Listen to new voices. We don’t just get to bow out. If there’s anything these last years have taught us, it’s how important it is to be civically engaged and to be a part of the dialogue. Apathy is a bad ingredient to mix in with a world that needs a lot of work. 

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In the age of misinformation, what advice would you give the young woman interested in pursuing a similar career path in journalism?

If you are interested in pursuing a career in journalism, be scrappy. I was always scrappy. I was willing to mop the floors for my first gig. People who are willing to get creative when one door shutsand many will in this industrywho refuse to give up and who are willing to do the unpopular tasks are the ones who get ahead. 

People who are willing to get creative when one door shuts, who refuse to give up and who are willing to do the unpopular tasks are the ones who get ahead. 

Remember to ask for help, and surround yourself with great people. There are many incredible women who changed my life. We bolstered each other. Find your allies. As a journalist who asks lots of questions for a living, my advice would also be to not forget to listen. The best answers come in follow-up questions.

Knowing what you know now, what advice would you give to your younger self about life and career?

I’d say, “Segall, you got this. Even when you don’t think you do, you are stronger than you ever realized. Step into yourself. You don’t have to live by the ‘shoulds.’ Life is much more authentic (maybe not easier, but much better) on the other side of other people’s expectations. 

Also, get some sleep. You’re more tired than you realize.”

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Why Financial Wellness Is the Latest Self-Care Trend





Sure, you’ve heard of buzzwords like work-life balance, self-care Sundays, and positive affirmations, but have you heard of “financial wellness?” Take a pause from your face masks and meditation pillows: There’s another form of self-care, and it just might change your life. According to a Bank of America survey, over half of companies are now offering financial wellness programs, and major universities like UCLA have started financial wellness programs for their students. Even though corporations and major businesses are instilling financial wellness programs for their employees, it isn’t just corporate America lingo or a buzzword reserved for Wall Street employees and bankers. Financial wellness is actually a crucial part of individual self-care and physical health that many people ignore. Read on for this important factor of self-care and how you can practice it yourself.

 

In this article

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What is financial wellness?

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Why is financial wellness important?

3
Tips to increase financial wellness:

 

What is financial wellness?

To put it simply, financial wellness is exactly what it sounds like: healthy finances. You feel prepared to handle any financial crisis, are in control of paying off debt, know what’s coming in and going out, and don’t feel stressed over your financial situation (no matter what income you make). But financial well-being does not end at having “enough” money and knowing what to do with it. The difference between financial wellness and financial literacy is that financial wellness recognizes that money is not an end destination (i.e. the end goal isn’t just to make a lot of it); instead, money is a tool we use to live our happiest, healthiest, best lives possible.

Money is a trade system. You’re exchanging your life’s energy for whatever you want to make your life happier, healthier, and better. Think about it: Money is simply a tangible exchange for the biggest portion of time, energy, passion, and experience you put into your life. How you manage, invest, and spend your money not only dictates your future finances, but it’s also subconsciously sending a message to yourself about what your life’s energy is worth. 

 

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Why is financial wellness important?

If you view your bubble baths and superfood lattes entirely separate from tax season and your IRA, it’s time you start looking at the big picture. Think of your well-being as a pie chart. Of course we know the nutrition pie slice, the fitness pie slice, and the stress-relief pie slice. Maybe you even know that strong relationships and a fulfilling work life are also important pieces of the pie. But finance is also a slice of your well-being pie, as it’s such a huge part of our lives. 

Finance is one of the most common major stressors, and (as many of us know all too well) chronic stress can negatively affect our health and well-being. Financial anxiety not only affects your bank account or spending habits, but it can also bleed into other areas of your life as well (stress over big purchases, avoiding necessary healthcare for fear of the bill, affecting relationships, etc.).

 

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Beyond stress that comes with poor financial wellness, good financial wellness is a tool to help our lives be better; it’s knowing how to use the money we have for our well-being (and grow that money for more well-being). Think: achieving whatever makes us happy, whether it’s creating a home, taking care of a family, or having amazing experiences, as well as spending money on our health, whether it’s necessary healthcare, a gym membership, or regular acupuncture sessions. 

The end goal isn’t actually to have a lot of money. The goal is to spend a lot of money (and know how to spend it) throughout your life so you’re as healthy and happy as possible. I don’t mean you can spend all of your paycheck on Postmates and shoes. I mean that at the end of your life, you’ll be able to look back on many decades of experience, memories, and happiness that you achieved partly because of how you spent your money. Financial wellness is beyond investing, saving, and 401ks; financial wellness addresses money as a common stressor, and it also views money as a tool to help us be healthier and happier. The good news? You can add it to your self-care routine no matter what your income is or what financial situation you’re in. Here’s how:

 

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Tips to increase financial wellness:

 

Budget based on what brings you joy

Be thoughtful about how you want to spend your life’s energy. Does it really bring you joy to grab drinks with that friend you don’t have fun with or to buy the top you’ll never end up wearing? Managing your money based on what does and doesn’t bring you joy will reduce stress that comes with spending money on the vacations, items, and experiences that you truly love.

 

Educate yourself

Throughout all my years of education, not one person decided to tell me that a personal finance class might be something important (or even accessible!). A lot of my financial stress comes from feeling uneducated. What the heck are all these types of accounts, how do I pay off debt, and what can I actually “afford?” Simply educating yourself might take away a lot of stress, help you grow your money, and find out what you deserve. Talk to your employer or university to see if they offer financial literacy programs, take our Finance 101 online course, or check out a resource like Ellevest, which is dedicated to educating and helping women manage their money. 

 

Invest in yourself

We’ve been talking about spending money, but money can also be invested. Just like you invest money into stocks to get more than what you originally invested over time, you can invest money into other things as well: get the gym membership, purchase that online course, or shop for organic groceries. Another financial wellness tip: The more money you put into something, the more likely you are to keep it up as a habit. Decide what you want your habits to be, and then invest your money to achieve them.

 

Make tracking your money part of your routine

PSA: If you’re not checking your credit card statements, checking account, and any other accounts or cards on a regular basis, you need to be. Make a finance check part of your weekly routine. Take yourself on a coffee date to set some financial goals at the beginning of the week or put on a face mask and go over bank statements on Sunday evening. Not only can this reduce added stress by identifying credit card fraud ASAP or knowing if you’re close to your credit limit, but you’ll also be more aware of how your money is being spent and feel more in control of your finances. 

 

Automate savings

The rule is to pay your past self first (debt) and pay your future self next (savings). If you’re having trouble saving money or want to start saving for those big life purchases that will make you happy, try to automate so you don’t have to think about it. Even if it’s just $5, set up an automatic deposit or transfer into a separate account from every paycheck. It’s kind of like setting short, easily attainable goals so you feel like you’re getting closer to what you want most in life, and it also brings clarity to know how much money you can spend on your day-to-day expenses and purchases to still enjoy the moment. The key is to save what you can but remember that the point of saving is so you can eventually spend it. Don’t forget to actually spend on the things you really want. 

 

Spend money to make you happier

Even if you don’t think you have any money to spend, is there any way to rearrange your budget for the things that will really make you happy? If a facial puts you in a state of bliss for days or a service like Instacart or Blue Apron saves you time and energy from chores you hate, try to see where you can find the money for it, at least once every few months. This might be as simple as using a Keurig instead of your $3.50 Starbucks every morning, packing lunch instead of buying it, or pulling from your clothing budget.

 

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We Tried the Best Trader Joe’s Cheeses—Here’s How They Ranked






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Maybe it’s my Italian genes, maybe it’s the undeniable truth that it’s one of the most versatile foods in the game, or maybe it’s the fact that digesting cheese literally causes your brain to release dopamine. While I may be unsure about the root of my love affair with cheese, there’s no denying it—I’m addicted and I just can’t get enough.

Whether it’s generously suffocating a personal pizza, sandwiched between two slices of sourdough bread, standing alone, or accompanied by a mix of fruits, crackers, nuts, and prosciutto, I do not discriminate. I have found that cheese is my tried and true route to happiness so it’s no surprise that one of my favorite places to hang out is the Trader Joe’s cheese aisle. With incredibly affordable prices, a wide variety of both non-TJ’s staples and standout blends you can’t get anywhere else, it’s a no-brainer that Trader Joe’s is one of the best places to get cheese.

 

OK, before I begin, full disclaimer: though I am a self-proclaimed cheese groupie and have consumed an impressive amount of cheese in my lifetime I am by no means a cheese expert. So if you’re looking for a review with descriptive cheese vocabulary such as yeasty, grassy, nutty, or funky, I regret to inform you that this is not that. I can tell you, however, if, I, an average person who enjoys cheese, would buy it again. Thank you for coming to my TED Talk. Let’s get this show on the road.

 

11. White Stilton Cheese with Apricots





I’ve been eyeing this White Stilton Cheese for quite some time and finally pulled the trigger on adding it to my cart this week. Traditionally, I love pairing my cheeses with jam or fruit so I really thought I was on to something when I picked this up. I sadly am here to report that this one just didn’t do it for me. It was overwhelmingly fruity and weirdly boasted a bitter aftertaste. As far as I’m aware, the rest of the internet didn’t hate it, so maybe it’s just me but I don’t think I’ll add this one to my cart again. 

 

10. Port Salut Semi-Soft Cheese





This Port Salut Cheese was recommended to me by a friend and let me preface this by saying: This cheese is not bad. It’s just pretty darn plain. Which might be what you’re looking for, especially if you’re assembling a cheese board that has a lot of bold flavors. Standing alone, this soft, creamy cheese didn’t particularly stick out in my brain but it was definitely a safe option especially if you prefer a mild cheese that’s not necessarily the star of the show.

 

9. Italian Truffle Cheese





If you like anything truffle, you need to try this Italian Truffle Cheese immediately. I’m not kidding—stop what you’re doing, run (do not walk), and add one of these to your cart. Truffle isn’t always my favorite because it is often overwhelming but I will say that this cheese did it right. Standing alone, the truffle cheese flavor lingered just a bit longer than I would like but this minor problem was quickly resolved when I ate it with a Fig & Olive Cracker and some grapes. 

 

8. Cheddar Cheese with Caramelized Onions





This cheddar cheese with caramelized onions sent me into orbit and gave me an out-of-body experience. I’m not sure why I didn’t expect this to taste like an Outback Bloomin’ Onion but hello, of course it did… it’s made with onion. I was really pleasantly surprised by this sweet and savory cheddar that made me truly question, am I eating onion rings RN? I couldn’t eat the entire block in one sitting as I would imagine the caramelized onion flavor would get overwhelming but I’m pretty sure that isn’t FDA recommended anyways. If you’re looking for a switch-up to your average cheeseboard staples, this is it.

 

7. Unexpected Cheddar Cheese





Unexpected Cheddar Cheese is a long-time Trader Joe’s cult favorite and for good reason. It presents itself like aged cheddar, looks like cheddar, and tastes like a cheddar—until it doesn’t. The “unexpected” part comes in when you get hit with that hint of parmesan that is oh, so delicious and the perfect surprise. You know, like when you unknowingly hit up your favorite retail store in the middle of a 40 percent off sale. This cheese is versatile, absurdly affordable ($4.99 per pound), and a new staple in my household. 

 

6. Blueberry Vanilla Chevre Goat Cheese





If I could rewind to December when I first picked up the cranberry version of this Blueberry Vanilla Chevre Goat Cheese, I think this would be higher up on my list but even so, this flavor is still so tasty. Before I tried this cheese, I was never a huge fan of goat cheese. While I’m working up to it, this fruity variety is a great transition cheese that even non-goat cheese lovers (my sister) love. Until the cranberry version returns (please, Trader Joe, bring it back!), this is a solid substitute. 

 

5. Asiago Cheese with Rosemary and Olive Oil





OK, now we’re getting to our top four which I will also lovingly label as “standalone cheeses I could eat in one sitting.” This Asiago Cheese with Rosemary and Olive Oil was a savory dream that I can’t stop thinking about. The rosemary made it feel a little bit earthy which somehow perfectly complements the asiago flavor. I have nothing but good things to say about this stuff and will 10/10 be buying this the next time my girlfriends and I go in on a homemade cheese board.

 

4. Alpeost Cheese





Alpeost Cheese is one of Trader Joe’s newest cheese additions and, man, is it a good one. There are no interesting or exotic flavors to this one, but for that reason in addition to the fact that the cheese itself is just so delicious made it one of my new favorites. I truly hope this one sticks around because this would be the perfect staple cheese to have in the fridge for just about all of your cheese-related needs. 

 

3. Toscano Cheese with Black Pepper





This peppercorn Toscano cheese is everything so it’s no surprise that in the two first attempts of trying to get my hands on it, it was sold out. It tastes like a mix of cheddar and parm and is truly a gift from Trader Joe himself. When I first grabbed it, I was a little nervous that the pepper-coating would be a bit overpowering, but I can promise you that TJ’s nailed it with this one.

 

2. Syrah-Soaked Creamy Toscano Cheese





Speaking of Toscano cheese, allow me to introduce one of my tried and true all-time favorites. I’ll talk about this cheese and recommend it to anyone who will listen so I already knew it would be at the tip-top of this list. It’s a bit creamier than the Black Pepper Toscano Cheese (perfect for spreading on crackers) but still has that cheddar/parm flavor that, to me, is simply to die for. This Syrah-soaked cheese is a fancy crowd favorite that I always stock up on whenever I hit up Trader Joe’s.

 

1. Old Amsterdam Premium Aged Gouda





Add this Old Amsterdam Gouda to the list of “Things I Didn’t See Coming in 2021.” It’s been around for a bit but I finally gave it the time of day and, oh my God. This is the best cheese I’ve had in so long and it has secured the title of My All-Time Favorite Trader Joe’s Cheese. It’s a gouda cheese that is smooth with crunchy crystals, full of flavor, and an exquisite mix of savory and sweet. I seriously don’t know how I lived without this stuff.

A Lesson From the French on How to Rest Well During Summertime

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It’s difficult to put into words what summertime means in France. An analogy that seems fitting is to compare summer in France to a finely aged wine. The French work hard all year to harvest the fruit of their labor, but when it comes to summer vacation, they know that, like an aged bottle of red, the secret to excellence is allowing time, rest and stillness to do the work. So let’s learn the French way to do summer—by taking time to relish in the abundance and harvest of the year through true rest. 

As a lover of California sunshine, living abroad in France for four years gave me a new understanding of summer as I faced my first dark, cold and damp winter in Paris. The short days and crowded metros made me crave space and light. Springtime in Paris was an emotional rollercoaster as weather was unpredictable and thunderstorms would interrupt pique-niques and plans.

The French do not live to work. They work to live. Even embedded within the language, the verb “être” (to be) is often used more than “faire” (to do). Daily life in the summer is centered on being not merely doing. Summers are not just for kids on break from school, but the entire society celebrates and savors all that summer has to offer. 

The French do not live to work. They work to live.

Summer Solstice, June 21, is welcomed with a national music festival called La Fête de La Musique. The festival originated in the 1980’s when the Minister of Culture desired to bring people and music to the streets. 

By allowing amateurs and professionals to play without permits, cost or noise restrictions at the festival, all genres of music are made accessible to the public. On the longest day of the year, everyone celebrates life with a 24-hour nationwide party. In Paris, all you need to do is walk for a few blocks and you will stumble on elderly couples dancing in the streets, punk-rock youth blasting their protests, classical quartets lining cafés and children, always at the front line of any crowd, soaking in the sounds and experience of music. 

This annual festival is just a debut of all France has to offer for the summer months. All year long you hear the French dream and discuss plans for “les vacances.” Embedded in French culture is the value of time for rest more than the grind of work and capitalism. 

Embedded in French culture is the value of time for rest more than the grind of work and capitalism. 

The government by law requires full-time workers to take at least five weeks vacation, on top of public holidays throughout the year. By August, most shops are closed for the month with handwritten notes from owners explaining “on est en vacances.” We are on vacation and will reopen in September. 

The French summer is unlike any other. Located in the heart of Europe, the geography of France allows for easy access to travel and weekend trips to new cultures and countries. All you have to do is hop on a south-bound train and you will be at the seaside in a matter of hours. 

The longer days, full feasts of delicious seasonal food, time spent with family and a nation-wide pause on work allow for a restoration of the soul of humanity. This summer, may we also learn to pause and let time and rest do its work in usmaking us like a fine wine full of flavor and life.

How good are you about prioritizing rest? Why is this so important?

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